Dating someone older than you bad
We are modern people, of course we are, and we don't need any man to build us a fire or change the flat tire anymore than we need someone else to bring home the bacon! What do you really, really expect of your life partner?
Like, I think of myself as someone who is independent in most factions of life, but let's be real, I need someone else to be the one who knows how to tame the technology-cord-snake-Medusa.
This is assuming you actually do enjoy hanging out with your family; if they are total loons and you know it, consider cutting him a break. But also, it indicates some deeper trouble: If he can't even be bothered to find out what it is you actually do, is he really interested in you?
Eyes may be the windows to a person's soul, but teeth are a pretty good indicator of where his head is. "And how cool is it that she's a professional masseuse? You're a licensed physical therapist—a job you described in extensive detail on dates Nos. Even if he's memorized your job title, though—does he care? Or was he too excited about the idea of free massages to hear what you were trying to tell him?
If he is attracted to you but is dating other people, he’ll get back to you eventually, without any additional prodding on your part. Think about it: If a guy is doing great, he might get ten emails – and can manage to respond to the three or four attractive women in his inbox.
If a woman is doing great, she might get 50 emails, or 150 emails, or 400 emails.
It’s astonishingly self-aware, and is the kind of letter I wish I received more, instead of the one blaming men for all the ills of the world.
Then you read this letter by Emily Bracken posted on Medium and reposted on Huff Po. I’m around the corner, down the street, on Facebook, in your office, at our local coffee shop, a complete stranger. In the meantime, which of the things on Emily’s list will you admit to?
I think this should be part of any responsible first-date diagnostic: close you eyes for a moment and imagine convincing this person to get a colonoscopy.
Take down your photo or profile and proactively contact men.
Instead of spending half your day deleting profiles of men you’d never consider, you could be talking to one or two decent guys at once.
For men, it’s probably worth it to take a second shot a month down the road. If he’s not responding the first time, it’s either because he’s not a paying member and can’t read the email, he’s got too many emails in his inbox and will wait till other prospects dry out to get to yours, or he simply isn’t interested.
But then again, there are enough quality women that I don’t see why you’d write to the same uninterested ones twice. I’d maybe try an IM, if you really want to give it a second shot.