Guy dating dumped me
They also tend to care less about one another’s happiness.
Objectively speaking, this prospect doesn’t seem very appealing.
There was no digital limbo where our connection could continue to exist. I’d never even left so much as a pair of earrings behind at his place.
He didn’t tag me in weird memes out of the blue or send me text updates about his pregnant sister-in-law. To this day I don’t know why my ex never reached out after we broke up. But, it’s important to acknowledge that there were a lot of circumstances that made this total ice out easier for me. He disappeared from my life instantly and all at once.
Looking back now on our full communication stop, I see three things really clearly.
I was so sure that this was not the end of our story that I didn’t bother to untangle myself from our social media connection—which was solely through Instagram.
When a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship, he means it. Before you can have a relationship with him or anyone else, you need to: a) Love yourself b) Love your life c) Feel completely full and content within your own life, with or without a relationship with a man Once you are truly at that point, you are ready to be in a relationship. Moreover, when a guy leaves you and you go chasing after him, he knows that he can have you when he wants you.
He knows that if he tries to pursue some new girl and fails, he can have you back in a heartbeat.
I could have texted him, called, or sent that letter. Transitioning from feeling as if I was “holding out” by not getting in touch to making a self-care choice took some time. To be totally honest the only proof I have is in hindsight.
We weren’t trying to be friends; I didn’t have to pretend I could handle that or wonder what it meant. Online dating—and connecting deeply with people you never would have met otherwise—makes this pretty easy to do.
When I was in the thick of it, I felt resentful and wounded when my ex didn’t end up contacting me.
Aside from social media stalking, many ex-couples continue to actually communicate—trying to stay friends. The truth is, staying friends after a breakup doesn’t often heal wounds; most of the time it prolongs hurt through a low-quality friendship.
According to research, exes who remain friends tend to have less emotionally supportive and less trusting friendships.