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amend the ‘terms and conditions’ of the relationship – Constantly switching the goalposts after luring you in on a temporary deal where you probably didn’t read the small print, little do you realise that they’re mentally tweaking up the ‘agreement’ with every boundary busting move they can manage.
Tied in with their future faking, they reserve the right to withdraw the offer at any time or to roll out a different deal and if you want to be with him/her, it’s their way, or no way.
‘I’m Not That Bad’ attitude and outlook – They’ll often compare what he/she deems to be worse to cast themselves in a better light and won’t consider something to be bad if they don’t think that there’s been a tangible and severe enough consequence, i.e.
what would typically be the natural consequence of mistreating someone – that person not having anything to do with them anymore.
These are often mistaken for evidence of emotion, or remorse.
Unfortunately it fits in well with pressing The Reset Button and shifting the focus off their bad behaviour or the impact on you.
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In fact, you don’t find it odd when someone wants to fast forward you through the initial stage of the relationship.
What separates an assclown from someone who is unavailable but not shady, is that they have lots of other dodgy or downright outrageous behaviour that they’re doing while managing down your expectations.
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The Drip-feed move – Instead of being upfront and giving you all of the information, he/she makes the private decision to only tell you what they think you can handle at that time. Unfortunately for you, if you’re an eager listener willing to believe they’re reformed or that they’re keen to be honest, you’ll take their latest drip as the truth and then become unseated when it turns out that you’re basing your relationship on another half-truth.
You are very likely to be caught out by this if you’re in denial about who they really are and don’t want to let go of your illusions.